How to define what you want out of life

Four important things everyone wants 

No two persons are alike , nor the conditions in which they live . As an individual , you must arrive to your personal defination of what you want .The more specific you are about what you want out of life ,the more likely you are to get it . Four main things every one wants are :

(1) Money : Most people tell you that they want money .But a very few can tell you about how much money they want to make right now and in future . If you don't know specifically' how much' you want , you will get into trouble in two ways -either you may not get enough money or you  may loose sight of other more important things in a race for money .

(2) Love : A true love enriches your life . It may be your spouse , family or passion .But, sometimes we lose that love , in preoccupied pursuits of other desires . Marriages easily go on rocks because the husband spends too little time with wife ,or because the wife gets too involved in activities outside the home .

(3) Ego food : It is something which satisfies your ego .It may be self esteem or admiration of others which makes you mentally healthy. Men and women who like their jobs ,proud of what they are doing ,get ego food from their work . Mothers of young children , who have realized that they are doing the most important job in the world ,get ego food from raising their family and making a good home . In long run ,self esteem and admiration by others does not depend upon what you look like or what you own .It depends on things that run far deeper than these. There must be a way to build a deeper and more satisfying self-esteem.To attain a more genuine and more lasting admiration from others, one must understand that- his own self esteem must rest on what he is , not on what someone else is not .

(4) Health: Health is the last thing many people ever think of until they've lost it .They permit themselves to be lured into overworking by a desire for more money than they need and by a desire for recognition they've already got .One must protect his health to enjoy all good things in life . Good health is simply a matter of living sensibly everyday . You need to follow sensible habits of eating , sleeping , working and relaxing .

Each individual needs different combination of above main things -all interwined and closely related. Never loose sight of one while you pursue another . If one or more of these four links is weak or missing , you don't feel so great . you feel troubled and uncomfortable . You need to weld the missing link and strengthen the weak ones .If you have a good and well -balanced supply of your own favorite kind of money , love , ego food and health , you're in business . You feel great because your chain of happiness is complete . Think of the happiest and most successful people you know.You will find that all of them have one thing in common - they like themselves . They are not filled of guilt "complexes". They know themselves ,their desires , their abilities and their limitations -still they have got self respect . 

ARE YOU HAPPY ?